Ten Things I Need For Career Bliss

I’ve been giving a lot of thought recently about happiness as it relates to my career. For my own benefit I’ve listed out the things that would make me totally, 100% satisfied with my working life. I’ve put 2′s next to the ones I think I’m currently achieving, 1′s next to the ones I’m kind of doing and 0′s next to the ones I need to fix.

I need to:

  1. Be totally passionate and in love with what I’m doing (1)
  2. Create products that people really want to use (0)
  3. Work with people who I like and who I’d hang out with even if we weren’t working (2)
  4. Do work that challenges both the creative and technical sides of my brain (2)
  5. Not sit at a desk all day (1)
  6. Feel that I’m contributing in a meaningful way in the strategic direction of a company/product (2)
  7. Feel like I’m getting better at stuff I used to suck at (1)
  8. Be challenged on a daily basis (1)
  9. Have enough time to hang out with my family, friends and dog and enjoy my two hobbies (playin hoops and drinking) (2)
  10. Make enough money to support a modest lifestyle and vacation internationally once in a while (0)

All-in-all my current work situation ain’t that bad, though there are a few obvious things I need to fix.   Sorry for the self-centered post but this helped me, maybe it’ll help someone out there.  What do you need to be career-happy?

Thoughts on Being a First Time Entrepreneur in New York

It’s been just over three months since I moved back to NY to work on StoryStack.  The main reason for leaving India was ’cause I kept reading how the NY tech scene was exploding (and I was sick of samosas… j/k I still love samosas).  So what’s it like being a first time entrepreneur in New York?  Glad you asked:

  • It’s a freakin’ rollercoaster - In our companies very short life we’ve had massive ups and downs.  One day we’ll crush a big meeting, the next a TechCrunch article appears praising a new competitor.  Feeling awesome one day and wanting to burying your head in the snow the next is apparently normal in a startup.  Still getting used to it…
  • The community is surprisingly really supportive – I’ve been following a bunch of internet celebrities for years, reading their tweets and blogs.  In only three months of being back, I’ve met actually met a lot the big guns.  I’ve been amazed at how an email introduction from a friend (and sometimes even cold) will get you a foot in the door.   Each meeting invariably leads to a new introduction and another meeting.
  • There are a lot of ways to meet new peopleohours.org is really amazing (great job innonate) and has helped us meet new people regularly.  There’s also a bunch of incubators like TechStars (which although we were one of 30 finalists, didn’t eventually get in), and more then just co-working spaces like Dog Patch Labs, General AssemblyMakeryHive55 and New Work City, that make life a lot easier for entrepreneurs.
  • It can unfortunately be very cliquey – It’s a surprisingly small world and there are a lot of circles.  There’s the companies that made it, the up and comers, the fading stars and the nobodies.  Everyone seems to have an opinion on everyone else and a lot of shit talking happens around people, products and VC’s.  I guess this is natural for a competitive environment but I’ve been surprised at how frequently this occurs.
  • Dedication and passion trumps talent - I’m really lucky to have two awesome co-founders, who I genuinely like, and who work harder then I do.  Having everyone on the team busting their ass ensures that no-one wants to be the one to drop the ball.  Two out of the three of us weren’t very strong programmers when we started, but I’m sure we’ve gotten a lot more done then lazy “ninjas.”

In general, I’m really happy being back in New York and excited about our progress on StoryStack.  If you want to check it out our just released third iteration, sign up on the home page or shoot me an email.

The Return

I did a ton of reading and drinking banana shakes in Thailand. I also had a funny haircut.


After leaving India
and spending an insanely awesome month decompressing on the beaches of Thailand, I’m officially back in New York. The first thing I noticed is that in the two years I was gone, things didn’t really change that much.  My family and friends are all still goin’ strong, the same guys are still playin’ ball in the park and the old bars and restaurants I liked are all still crazy expensive.  Everyone keeps asking me how India was (“incredible”) and what it’s like being back (“exciting”).  Going abroad was one of the better decisions I’ve ever made and now I’ve got a lot of awesome stories to tell at parties (Have I told you about that time I met the Dalai Lama?)

Inevitably people ask me what I’m gonna’ do with my life. I tell the truth, that I’m going to be a scuba diving instructor in Thailand, but until that happens I’m co-founding a web start-up. At first I wasn’t sure if we were “ready” to start a company, but it looks like there’s only one way to find out. We’ve got a concept that everyone seems to love (no it’s not one of these) and a very talented two and a half person team. I’m spending a few hours each day trying to hack together a Rails prototype and the rest of my time meeting with really amazing people to review our mock-ups and product strategy. Although I have a lot of questions and have no idea where this is going to end up, working for myself is awesome.  I wake up everyday with new ideas and a hunger for work (and bagels).

Although my blog will be a lot less Indiany, I’ll try to keep writing about what it’s like starting a company and finally being an adult… as soon as I find a place to live and move off my brother’s couch.

Why I'm Leaving India

It’s been almost two years since I decided to pack up and move to India. Living here has been amazing and life-changing.  I’ve experienced tremendous growth both personally (by meeting a ton of awesome people and traveling around the region) and professionally (by surrounding myself with the incredibly talented folks at Directi). Sadly though all good things must come to an end and I’ll be leaving India in early September. I’m taking a month off to travel around Kenya or Thailand and will be back in NYC by early October.

There are a lot of reasons for moving. When I first arrived in India I was a baby. Everything was new and delightful: getting stuck for hours behind a Ganesh Chaturthi procession – awesome!  Taking Bisleri showers ’cause there’s no water in my apartment – its just like camping!  Cows roaming the beach – hilarious! But after living here for two years a lot of the novelty has worn off. Routine and real-life have sunk in. Living in India isn’t that easy.  In comparison, my life back in the States is much more comfortable and healthy.  It’s time for me to get back to my family and friends.

I’m also seeking a change professionally. While I love working at Directi and really believe in the people and the direction of the company, I’d like to work on something much smaller. I’m seriously considering launching my own web product or joining a very early stage startup. I keep reading about how the New York tech scene is exploding and I want in. If anyone has any leads or suggestions on people I should speak with please let me know.

I certainly have a few regrets (never winning a Bombay Basketball Tourney, knowing that there is so much more I can contribute to in my current role), but for me, right now, this feels good.

I just wanted to thank all my friends, co-workers, bballers, maids and roomates for making this experience so memorable and enjoyable. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing. You’re all awesome.

Amchi Mumbai.

Journey to the Himalayas (Agra, Manali, Lahul Valley, Dharamsala)

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Each summer my buddies from college all get together and spend a few days being debaucherous. We unanimously agree on a host and it’s up to them to ensure a good time. Previous trips included such exotic locations as, the Jersey shore, Cape Cod, Vegas, a trailer park in Mexico and Lake of the Ozarks. This year was our sixth “sunbelly” and I was el presidente.  I told everyone a year ahead of time that it’s going to be in India and even though we knew the cost and time involved would force a few people to drop out, peeps were pumped.

Sure it would’ve been easy and par for the course to get everyone to party on the beaches of Goa, but I was hoping for something a little different.  After discussing a few different options (Kerala or Andaman Islands) we settled in on the Himalayas.  The original itinerary (setup by our amazingly fantastic and highly recommended travel agent) involved us taking a driving from Manali to Leh/Ladakh (Kashmir).  Unfortunately the day my friends arrived to Mumbai, a freak cloudburst and ensuing floods devastated the region including burying villages, knocking out the airport and  blocking all roads in and out of the region.

After some last minute scrambling we settled on an Agra, Manali, Lahul Valley and Dharamsala trip.

Agra

We flew to Delhi in the morning and drove down to Agra to see the Taj Mahal.  I received some bad intel pegging the drive at 3 hours (in reality it was more like 5 and a half).  Aside from my friends shock and awe by the sights, sounds and smells of India (and monkeys attacking our car), it was a pretty uneventful drive.

The Taj Mahal lives up the to hype:

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Us at the Taj Mahal

Manali

Early the next morning we hopped on a flight to Kullu and drove to Manali. The flight in was my first real experience in the mountains and absolutely mind blowing.  We hung out for a day or two in the old city which is dominated by Israeli backpackers (for better or worse).  It was nice, but a little too “heady” for my taste.

Manali really gives you the feeling of “being in the clouds:”

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We visited Naggar castle which back in the day was sold to the British for a gun and had crazy intricate woodwork:

Naggar Castle

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We also went to the home and studio of a Russian artist (and true culture warrior) who settled in the region  in 1917:

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Rohtang Pass

The next morning we hopped into some jeeps and made the journey across the Rohtang Pass into Lahul Valley.  Rohtang sits at 14k feet and is literally translated to “pile of corpses”.  It was easily the most intense drive of my life.  Recent mudslides, hairpin turns and high altitudes took it’s toll on the roads (and our group).

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Rohtang3Rule #7 of driving in the himalayas: If a man starts cooking and selling corn on the side of the road, you have at least 45 till you get moving again:

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I’d received a lot of warnings from friends to make it over the pass quickly.  ”Don’t spend too long out out on the pass or you’ll be crawling back to the car.”  Despite the consequences we were determined to play the highest altitude game of wiffle ball ever:

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In retrospect this turned out to be a bad idea.  Death notes to loved ones were written and a few of us couldn’t breathe from altitude sickness:

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On the other side of the pass the clouds cleared up, people started feeling better and we got our first real views of the himalayas.  Spectacular:

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Lahul Valley

By nightfall we reached our stone cottage near Jispa.  The people managing the place cooked us dinner, lit a bonfire and provided us some local “nectar of the gods.” This turned out to be the best place we stayed on the trip.  No cell service, no internet, just natural beauty and contemplation.

If you ever find yourself near Jispa, I’d highly recommend Gemur Khar Cottage, Jispa (contact Ramesh Thakur 09418388352).

Jispa

The next day we hung out in Lahul Valley visiting two villages: Triloknath and Udaipur. Triloknath was on a sheer cliff and had a very authentic monastery. Although definitely Buddhist, there was a lot of Hindu influence:

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Triloknath2 The views were consistently spectacular throughout the drive:

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After two and a half blissful days in Lahul we once again went over the Rohtang pass on our way to Dharamsala.  The drive back was a lot easier (no wiffle ball, we’d adjusted to the altitude and we knew what to expect).  We also saw a bunch of tourists riding over Rohtang on motorcycles and bicycles, not to mention local grandmas doing it on foot.  We were really embarrassed that we could barely do it in a high end SUV.

To break up the drive, we stopped at an off-season The Shining-esque ski resort in Solang Valley.

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Dharamsala / McLeod Ganj

The drive to Dharamsala was scary and epic in it’s own way.  We kept expecting to see velociraptors hopping down the mountains:

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Instead we saw bears, monkeys, sheep and cows in funny places:

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We stayed in Mcleod Ganj for 3 days and checked out the local sights.  The obvious highlight was the temple of the Dalai Lama:

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On our second night my buddy Ben had a dream that we all met the Dalai Lama.  The following evening an old Tibetan woman gave us a tip that “his Holiness” was in fact in town and leading morning prayers the next morning.  We showed up early and the place was a madhouse.  #14 rolled in with a crazy entourage including a bunch of monks, dudes in suits, personal bodyguards and the Indian Army.  After a 2 hour morning prayer he walked around the crowd, smiling and dispensing snippets of wisdom.  He really radiates,  you can tell dude is enlightened.

Our last night was pretty relaxed.  We played a bunch of chess:

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and the game the Nazis play in Inglorious Bastards (“well then I must be King Kong”). Although I hate Nazis, this is a pretty awesome game:

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I also caught a pretty awesome sequence of the clouds coming in over the city:

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All in all the trip was spectacular.  Although we didn’t make it to Leh/Ladakh, I’m sure I’ll make it back (much more prepared) to do it all again.

Jiddyjiddy zarzar.

My IgniteMumbai talk on Happiness

Last weekend I gave a short talk as part of the inaugural meeting of IgniteMumbai. It was a really fun experience, the organizers did a great job and the crowd was really into it.

The talk was short, but the format made it difficult: 20 slides, 15 seconds apiece, slides automatically rotate. Not much room for fluff. The hardest part for me was picking a topic that would appeal to 70 strangers and fit within 5 minutes. I iterated through a bunch of topics but ended up speaking on happiness. Like everything else I feel I could’ve done a bit better but was pleased with the outcome.  The first slide didn’t make the vid:


Slides below:

What do you think?  How do you think the talk could’ve been better? You can catch the other 9 talks here.

Smart + Hard Working + Charismatic = Crazy Successful

There’s the old project management saying: good, cheap and fast… pick two.

In the business world I’ve noticed that three characteristics generally determine success: smart, hard working and charismatic. Sure, the definition of success widely varies but for the purposes of this post, I’ll define it as, “the ability to achieve lofty goals.”

If you have one of these characteristics above you can get by fairly well. The smart, lazy, boring gal who manages to muddle away at her corporate job, she’s doin’ alright.

If you’ve got two of the above characteristics you are in the top quartile of successful people.  The dogged, friendly sales guy is makin’ it rain but won’t get to CEO.

But the ladies and gents who really crush it, are the ones who are intelligent, relentless and likable. While smarts can’t generally be picked up, the other two can be cultivated.  Work harder then everyone else, make sure you genuinely care about the people you work with (never sacrifice relationships for individuals project deliverables) and you’ll get to where you wanna be.

bahut hi jaldi / too soon

ive been meaning to write another one of these for a while, due to the raging success of my last poem. special thank you to my editors/roomates manoj and general briggs.

bahut hi jaldi

woh baag mein beti thi
jawab ki inthezar mein
“mere bina mat jao”

woh thokar khaya
dheere se hasaa
“mujhe dosh na do”

usne fal kha li thi
woh chai pee liya tha
khoobsurat… andha… krodh

translation:

too soon

she was siting in the garden
waiting for an answer
“dont go without me”

he stumbles
laughing softly
“do not blame me”

she ate the fruit
he drank the tea
beautiful… blind… anger

Cost of living comparison: Mumbai vs NYC

Here are some rough cost of living numbers comparing Mumbai and NYC -  some research was done but this is mostly anecdotal based on my experiences.  The below monthly expenses assume you are living very well.  I am erring on the high side.

Item INR/USD Cost in India

INR/USD Cost of Item in NYC

Apartment Rent (Assuming a nice 2 bedroom, 2 bathrooms, fulltime watchman, balcony) 45000/900 per month (in Andheri) 150000/3000 per month (in Midtown)
Domestic Help (Cook & Maid) 6000/60 per month (7 days a week) 1500/25 per hour
Driver 8000/120 per month (6 days a week/12 hours a day) 1250/25 per hour
Dinner + few drinks in Top restaurants (5-stars) 2000/40 per person 5000/100 per person
Weekend trip (travel + accommodations) To Goa: 7500/150 per person (offseason) To Miami: 30000/600 per person
Cell Phone (expensive data plan + plus a few hours of talktime to US/Europe) 2500/50 per month 3500/70 per month
Cable TV (200 channels) 400/8 per month 2000/40 per month


Item INR/USD Cost in India INR/USD Cost of Item in NYC
330ml can of Coke 20/.40 62.5/1.25
A meal at a decent Restaurant 200/4 600/12
Movie Ticket 180/3.60 512.5/10.25
Big Mac at McDonalds 65/1.30 125/2.50
Levis Jeans 1800/36 2000/50
Levis T-shirt 600/12 1000/20
Visit to a specialist in a great hospital 600/12 10000/200


Estimated Monthly Expenses INR/USD Cost in India INR/USD Cost of Item in NYC
Apartment 45000/900  (in Andheri) 150000/3000 (in Midtown)
Driver, Maid, Cook 6000/60 Yeah right
Cell Phone 2500/50 3500/70
Internet/ TV 750/15 3000/60
Eating out and drinking 3 nights a week 12000/240 30000/600
Movies once a week 720/14.40 2050/41
Groceries (monthly) 7500/150 15000/300
Clothing & Shopping (Assuming a few new pants and shirts a month) 10000/200 15000/300
One long weekend trip (including Flight accommodations) 10000/150 30000/600
TOTAL 88970/1779.4 248550/4971



If anyone disagrees with me here, feel free to comment and let me know how this can be improved.

Finding a Job Abroad

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” — Mark Twain (RT will lerner)

A few people have asked me recently how I was able to find a job in India while living in New York.  I’ll share my experiences and give some tips which will hopefully be relevant for anyone looking for a job.

One day I woke up and decided I wanted to move to abroad.  It didn’t really matter where, on a whim I picked India because it sounded cool and Hong Kong since my parents had lived there and I had some contacts.  The first thing I did was the traditional job board seek and apply.

Lesson #1: It’s tough to evaluate and seriously consider a candidate from half a world away: The response rates I got from the job boards sucked.  I probably applied to 100 jobs and maybe heard back from 1.  Not very encouraging.  I realized that this wasn’t going to work, I either needed connections or to pack up my bags and move and try to apply for jobs locally.  I wasn’t quite ready for drastic measures quite yet (but I was getting close).

Lesson #2: Use your network, but don’t force it: Next I started reaching out to trusted people in my network (family and friends) and asked if they had any recommendations.  I was put in touch with some interesting people, but nothing was a great fit.  50% of the people I spoke with seemed like they were doing me (or my connect) a favor by talking to me, and the other 50% I felt like I was talking to just because I had no other alternative (and didn’t want to offend my hook-up).  The best conditions for getting a job is when you have an “in” and you are suitably qualified and passionate about the job.  In my case I only had two out of the three.  I spent a few days thinking about it and decided on another approach.

Lesson #3: Forget a job profile, find a great company: Rather then looking for a particular job, I started trying to figure out which companies I would love to work for.   I did some research and came up with a list that included interactive agencies (based on my most recent work experience), web startups (including a local search company and an advertising network), VCs and various agile software companies.   I came across Deloitte’s list of Fastest 500 growing companies divided into region and investigated every company.  Finally I contacted the owners of special interest groups (like The Agile Softare Community of India run by Naresh Jain), asking for any advice.

Lesson #4: Go straight to the top: I did as much research about these companies as possible put together a list of the top 50 companies I wanted to work for, and rather then apply for jobs through the traditional channels, I found the name of their CEO and emailed them directly.  Emailing a CEO is a good idea: first off it shows some “chutzpa,” second if you are good, they can create a job for you, third when a CEO emails a hiring manager and says check out this candidate, they listen.  Luckily, CEO’s of companies are usually pretty easy to find, though their email addresses aren’t always.  The old “guess the email address” trick usually did the job.  Either find contact info for someone at the company and copy their email address format (first.last@company, first.last initial@company, etc…), or just guess a popular format.  I was able to hit the CEO for pretty much every company I found.  Response rates (especially for smaller companies) jumped dramatically.

Lesson #5: Land one interview: This is the hardest step.  In my case I got lucky, an agile software consultancy who I really admired (let’s call them ThoughSmirks), had offices in NY and were hiring in India.  Wow’d ‘em in NYC and they agreed to setup an interview with me in India.  Boom, just like that I had one concrete, legitimate interview lined up with a company I liked.  I setup a tentative itinerary and bought some plane tickets (on my own dime).  Now with travel dates in hand it was a easy to lock up other interviews.  Through the people I was in talks with and the CEO’s of companies I was emailing, I had a bunch of phone interviews and setup 7 in-person interviews for a 9 day trip to Mumbai, Goa and Bangalore.  The companies varied in terms of size, culture, vertical and location, and just like college I had some “safeties” and some “long-shots.”

Lesson #6: Get the offer – think later: When I got here and started talking to people my views totally changed. The company I was most excited about ended up being a little boring, something didn’t resonate well.  During the interview I started questioning if this was the right move for me.  The interview is not the place to think about this stuff: you’re an actor – smile, laugh, be smart, get the offer – do whatever it takes.  You’ll have plenty of time to think about this later.

Lesson #7: Money isn’t the most important thing: I was lucky and was able to get multiple offers.  This really allowed me to evaluate what was important.  Despite liking one company in Bangalore, I hated the city (you’re tellin’ me bars close at 11 and there’s no live music?).  Goa was awesome and the advertising agency I got an offer from was cool, but as my Dad said, even in Darfur they pay you more (Money isn’t everything but hey a man’s gotta eat).  In the end I really liked Mumbai and was really impressed by all the people I met at Directi although my role wasn’t exactly defined at the time of joining, 7 months later I’m extremely happy with my decision.

Lesson #8: Enjoy: In the end moving abroad has been a really great experience for me.  I’ve been challenged professionally and personally and feel like I have grown tremendously as a result.  I have many friends who have taken the plunge  (from teaching english in China, Vietnam, Peru, South Korea to selling ice cream in Thaland to peace corps in West Africa), and not a single person I know regrets it.  It isn’t for everyone, but those of you feeling pangs of restlessness, what are you waiting for, the time is now…